Most Christians agree that God loves them, but we often misunderstand the wonderful implications of this truth.┬áMany times we are more like Ryan and Sue’s daughter than their son.

Their daughter, Stacie, recently turned 18. Even though she is still in high school, she decided to move out of her parents’ house. She is tired of the rules and anxious to be free of her parents’ hovering influence. Stacie’s behavior is extremely painful for Ryan and Sue. They have done their best to provide a physically and emotionally safe place for Stacie. However, Stacie feels their attempts are intrusive. She wants freedom to make her own decisions, that is until she needs something. For example, she needed help to move the bedroom furniture Ryan and Sue gave her. Her first thought was to request (demand) that Ryan move the furniture for her. Ryan refused, explaining that moving was her decision and she needed to figure out how to do it. Ryan’s response made Stacie angry. She expected Ryan do this for her because he had always helped her in these kinds of situations in the past.

Ben is their son. He appreciates the benefits he receives as Ryan and Sue’s child. He understands that the house rules are protective, not punitive. He loves access to abundant food and multiple camping trips each summer. He gratefully takes full advantage Ryan and Sue’s generosity. He comes to them whenever he has a need. He even asks them for things that he doesn’t really need, but wants. Ryan and Sue love to make Ben happy. They delight in his physical, emotional and spiritual growth. They love him and they willingly sacrifice their own comfort and security to please and protect him.

Ironically, the benefits that Ben enjoys are also available to Stacie. The difference is that Stacie refuses them.

God’s people humbly go to him in prayer when they understand his love for them.

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